Of your two projects, the first went from creation to completion of all rounds solely through the normal operation of the queues in two months, and is being post-processed/verified. If you have concerns as PM about specifics of the project or its status, you should contact the post-processor or the PP-verifier of the project via the several means available to you on the DP site.
I have certainly done so, and have been told that it is "normal" for a PP to take a long time at DP and that it would not be nice to keep asking the PP every three months or so "how's it going."
Any of the DP project facilitators, db-req, dp-help, or admins could have heard your concerns and and discussed options with you, which could have saved much of the frustration which you've expressed on this list, had you only asked.
I did ask, and I was told that there was nothing I could do to expedite the process and that these delays are normal, and what I should do is spend my time and energy sticking more projects into the front end of the queue.